Words are made up of single letters from an alphabet, forming a train of readable thought.
Mere strokes of a pen, or a result of little keys pressed on a computer.
Words are so easily spoken or written…
and words are so easily withheld…
Words hold great power and influence.
Words create a language between human life and even some are understood by the animal kingdom.
Words hold a strange power over our hearts and minds and emotions.
And words are a love language for most men.
What words do you use the most with your man? How is he hearing them, do you know? Are you aware of the influence your words have on your husband’s heart, mind, body and emotions?
Listen to the Word of God:
“For the lips of a forbidden woman drip honey, her speech is smoother than oil, but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword” (Prov. 5:3-4).
“My son, keep your father’s commandment, and forsake not your mother’s teaching……to preserve you from the evil woman, from the smooth tongue of the adulteress” (Prov.6:20, 24).
“And behold, the woman meets him, dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart. She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home; now in the street, now in the market, and at every corner she lies in wait. She seizes him and kisses him and with bold face she SAYS to him, ‘I had to offer sacrifices, and today I have paid my vows so now I have come out to meet you, to seek you eagerly, and I have found you’…….with much seductive speech she persuades him; with her smooth talk she compels him. All at once he follows her….” (Prov. 7:10-21).
I find it rather interesting that these proverbs depict the wayward woman as using her words to seduce a man (along with her attire)….her words draw him in like a fish to a hook.
What power and influence do the words of a woman have on the mind and sexual desire of a man?
Listen to God’s Word:
“A wife’s quarreling is a continual dripping of rain” (Prov.19:13).
“It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife” (Prov. 21:9).
“It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman” (Prov. 21:19).
“A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike: to restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one’s right hand” (Prov. 27:15-16).
The Word of God contrasts nagging women (wives) to dripping rain and reveals the “evil woman” ( the NIV translates her as “the wayward wife”) as having a tongue that is smoother than oil, seductive and alluring; This contrast is written in biblical history, apparently this problem has been going on for a long time.
I find it a grievous commentary of women and their mouths; obviously a big enough and real enough problem to have been recorded as a warning and revelation of the power of a woman’s words in a man’s ear.
Our husband’s are warned in scripture against women who would lead them away from the marriage bed (Prov. 5-7), and we as wives receive basic, but powerful teaching regarding our words. Our ‘rain drips’ make it more appealing for them to camp out on the corner of a roof than be in our homes with us. I desire my husband to be allured by me, drawn to me by my words of loving sincerity, rather than words of empty flattery given by a woman who neither knows him nor loves him.
If you were the husband which woman would you choose to listen to? Which woman would be given greater influence?
Scripture teaches much about our words and how we use them….(that is a few blogs in itself), but for today I ask you, when is the last time you spoke words of affirmation to your husband? What words are you choosing to build him up? (Read James 3:2-12)
When is the last time you expressed your desire, need, and love to him? Has he heard from your mouth that you find him hot and sexy? Or are you always correcting him? Do you always have a “better way” to do something? Do you make him want to be a better man when he is with you or does he want to hide and disappear from you?
Words are formed from single letters from an alphabet, placed together to form a language of thought to be communicated…perhaps it’s time you learned to speak the right words, perhaps it’s time to become self-aware, hearing your own words before they leave your mouth.
“Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt…..” (Col.4:6)
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” (Prov.18:21).
Watch your words, use them to love your husband not destroy him, watch him light up as you verbally bless him…
He will want more of you,